Your palms sweat, you can't think of what to say, and you're sure your heart is about to jump out of your chest – why are you nervous every time you talk to her?
When a man is nervous around a woman, you might be worried about showing such vulnerability, but you can rest assured that your nervousness is telling her good things about you, not bad things.
You see (for one thing) dating sites like Your Tango are teaching women, what it means when a man is nervous around a woman is that you're just that into her.
Men with too much confidence and bravado around women they're dating seem too stuck on themselves – so your little bit of nervousness may be winning you favorable points (she can tell if you're faking it though).
What Causes Nervousness?
Nervousness is caused by anxiety, which can happen for many reasons. It's all a part of the “fight or flight” response that is ingrained into humans. You may feel nervous in certain situations, whether they're new or not. You might have nervousness when the weather is bad, during your work review, or when you're proposing to your girlfriend.
There is nothing unusual about being nervous unless you're feeling this way all the time. Too much anxiety is stressful, and it's bad for your heart health and mental health.
Signs of Nervousness
Since everyone experiences nervousness once in a while, it's very likely you've had some of these symptoms in the past.
If you're in a new romantic relationship, you may even have some of these signs of nervousness when you're out on a date or just talking to her on the phone:
- Feelings of nausea and an upset stomach
- Irregular or rapid heartbeat
- Tics, like a sudden jerking of the head or shoulders
- Dry mouth
- Excess sweating, especially on palms of hands
- Inability to catch your breath
- Trembling and shaking
- Inability to concentrate
- Headaches and muscle tension
- Feelings of restlessness
- Feeling light-headed
Of course, these are all things that can happen when you're having a full-blown panic attack or even a heart attack. Judge the situation according (you don't want to call an ambulance and ruin your night out just because you had some first date jitters).
Things That Cause You to Be Nervous Around the Opposite Sex
There are a few general situations when you can be expected to be nervous around a woman. Even the calmest of men can find themselves at a loss for words when they're on their first date or about to say “I love you” for the first time.
Here are some common instances when you just might get nervous, and how to deal with that jittery feeling.
1. You're Asking Her Out
You like her, and you think she likes you. You really don't have any definitive way to tell. So, you're just going to ask her out and hope she says “yes.”
Of course, she could say “no,” or laugh at you, or even run away. There are so many scenarios, and the more you dwell on them, the more nervous you'll be. Go into it knowing she has every right to turn you down, but with the confidence that you're good enough for her to agree instead.
2. You're on Your First Date
She agreed to go on a date with you, and you were already nervous just getting ready. You dig this lady, and you really want to impress her, so you're dwelling on all the stupid things you might accidentally say.
She agreed to go out with you, so obviously she has some interest in you. Instead of worrying what could go wrong, focus on all the things that might go right.
3. You're Meeting Her Friends/Family
Meeting anyone for the very first time can be nerve-racking, but meeting your girlfriend's closet friends or her family member can be downright terrifying. Just because she likes you doesn't mean they will. Your best bet is to be yourself, and maybe take some of the stress off by having her meet your people first.
4. You're Going to Say Those Three Words
Saying “I love you” the first time is scary for everyone. Think about the fact that she might be just as nervous to say it back to you afterward.
5. You're Going to Propose
If your proposal comes out all wrong, it won't be the first one to ever do that, and it definitely won't be the last. Even if you say it instead of asking, she'll still be just as overwhelmed by the gesture.
Just Be Yourself
Don't try to put on false airs. Just be yourself, even if you're the nervous type. Most women appreciate honesty more than false bravado.
When a man is nervous around a woman, some ladies even find it very sweet!